5 Powerful Ways To Focus On The Good Things In Life

For years, I have always thought that focusing on the good things in life was nothing but toxic positivity. I thought it was just a way of denying reality or minimizing the challenges that we face every day. To me, to focus on the good things in life meant always striving to be positive and maintaining this cheerful facade, even when we are struggling in life.

It was only when I hit my rock bottom that I realized how crucial it was to focus on the good things in life, not as a means of denying my struggles, but as a vital tool in helping me stay strong while navigating through them. It was during the lowest point of my life that I realized that this approach is not about ignoring the bad.

Acknowledging and appreciating the positive aspects of life does not invalidate the struggles that we face, it actually helps us cope with them. While doing this did not solve all my problems, it did give me the strength and hope that I needed to keep going and to keep pushing through regardless of all the adversities that I was facing.

But to be honest, focusing on the good things in life is often easier said than done.  Especially when life seems to keep hitting you with one problem after another, finding the good during that period of our lives just seems impossible.

Yes, it can be difficult but it is certainly possible. In this post, I will be sharing with you the steps I took that helped me focus on the good things in life despite the seemingly endless challenges that I faced.

I’m hoping that some of these steps will resonate with you and help you find the strength, hope, and motivation that you need to keep going.

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How To Focus On The Good Things In Life

1. Complain Less

Are you also guilty of constantly complaining about every little inconvenience? I definitely am and this bad habit was magnified when I was going through difficulties.

When I was navigating one of my lowest points, I allowed myself to be consumed by everything that was going wrong with my life. I thought that focusing my attention on all my problems would motivate me to work even harder but doing this just made me bitter and angry.

Every day, I would complain about even the smallest inconveniences, and this negativity began to affect not only my mental health but also my relationship with others. It was like I was caught in a never-ending cycle of downward spiral.

The more I complained, the more problems seemed to pop up and the harder it became to find the hope and strength to keep trying and to see any good in my life. I learned that constant complaining wasn’t actually solving anything. It just made everything more overwhelming to the point that it paralyzed me and kept me from actually doing anything.

And honestly, it was just adding to my misery. I know that complaining can be a great avenue for us to vent out and release our frustration. But the problem really starts when complaining becomes our go-to response to every situation, even the smallest inconveniences.

We have to keep reminding ourselves that there is a fine line between healthy venting and constantly complaining. I’ve learned the hard way that complaining too much can only make us feel even worse and even more hopeless.

The thing that really helped me slowly break free from this habit was allowing myself the chance to pause and reflect.

Every time I wanted to complain, I stopped and thought, “Is there something I can do about this?” Doing this helped me focus on finding solutions to my problems instead of just talking about them.

2. Focus On What You Can Control

Learning to accept what is beyond your control and focusing only on what you can is a crucial step in helping us focus on the good things in life. I have always been what you may call a “control freak”.

I can’t even begin to tell you the number of times I’ve spent so much time and energy trying to micromanage every little aspect of my life.

I’ve always had this notion that as long as I continue to do this then I’m preventing things from going wrong. I thought that if I just kept trying to control everything, then nothing bad would happen.

But this is just not true because the reality is, that no matter how hard we try, we just can’t control everything. Constantly trying to do so will only lead to more stress, frustration, and disappointment.

Spending so much time and effort trying to control every little aspect of my life was not only mentally exhausting but it was also making me so unhappy and miserable when things didn’t go as planned.

One of the best things that we can do to help us focus on the good things in life and find hope even in our most difficult days is to understand and accept that some things are just out of our hands, it doesn’t matter how hard we try to control it, and you know what? That’s perfectly okay.

Instead of spending so much time and effort controlling the uncontrollable, let’s focus our attention on what we could actually change and influence.

Learning to slowly accept what I can’t control has felt so freeing. It helped me focus on the present and appreciate the good things in life, instead of worrying about every possible thing that could go wrong.

I know that doing this is not easy and let me tell you, I am certainly far from mastering it but we just have to keep reminding ourselves that life will always be full of unexpected twists and turns and you know what, sometimes things work out in ways we hadn’t planned but were just as good or often even better.

3. Practice Positive Self Talk

I know that most of us are guilty of being our own harshest critic. I certainly am. For years, I believed that being my worst critic was the best way to push myself to achieve success and change my life for the better.

I thought that by being tough on myself, I would stay motivated and focused and that would keep me from failing and making any mistakes.

I didn’t realize that by relentlessly putting myself down, I was also diminishing my confidence, self esteem and self worth. It took a real wake up call for me to finally accept the fact that this constant negative self talk was actually doing more harm than good.

If you’re guilty of also constantly beating yourself up, please know that you deserve to be kind to yourself. You deserve to treat yourself with the same compassion and understanding you would so easily offer to a loved one.

Constant negative self talk does not only harm our mental health and confidence, but it also narrows our perspective in life, making us only focus on our flaws and failures.

We have to remind ourselves that practicing positive self talk and offering ourselves compassion is not about being self indulgent. It’s not about ignoring our mistakes or avoiding responsibility.

It is about acknowledging our flaws, mistakes, and shortcomings without harsh judgment and understanding that these are just part of being human.

Positive self talk is about shifting our mindset of constant self criticism to one of constructive self encouragement. It’s about recognizing your efforts and learning from your mistakes instead of beating yourself up over them.

Human as we are, we all have flaws and shortcomings but that doesn’t mean that we are no longer worthy of kindness, love, and understanding. It’s time to stop being our worst enemy and start being our own best friend.

4. Recognize Your Efforts And Celebrate Small Wins

It’s easy to take our efforts for granted, especially when we are being hit with one problem after another. It’s easy to ignore everything that we have accomplished and overcome and focus solely on the challenges and setbacks.

But recognizing our efforts and celebrating even the smallest wins is vital for maintaining motivation and helping us focus on the good things in life. I know that doing that is not always easy, especially when our progress feels slow or insignificant compared to the goals and standards we have set for ourselves.

If you feel this way, please know that progress, no matter how small, is still progress. Every step forward, no matter how tiny, is still a step in the right direction.

We have to remind ourselves that big achievements are often the result of many small and seemingly insignificant steps. So please, remember to pause and give yourself credit for all the hard work that you’re doing.

I know that life can often be difficult and challenging and yet, you are still fighting, that alone speaks volumes of your resilience and strength.

Know that every time you choose to get back up and keep going, even during the darkest days, is a testament to your invaluable strength and unyielding spirit. Please give yourself a huge pat on the back.

Please know that you are more than just surviving, you are fighting, learning, growing, and becoming stronger every single day. Continue to believe in your abilities, focus on your progress, and know that every challenge that you overcome is another step towards your growth.


5. Gratitude Journaling

Gratitude journaling is a powerful tool in helping us focus on the good things in life and develop a more positive outlook. I wasn’t really keen on the benefits of journaling, especially gratitude journaling. I thought that it was just another self help fad that wouldn’t really make a difference in my life.

It was actually when I was struggling so badly that I decided to try this. Every day felt like I was constantly hit with one problem after another and one disappointment after another.

I was so consumed with negativity to the point that I started feeling more and more hopeless and defeated every day.

It was an act of desperation to find even the smallest sliver of hope and positivity that pushed me to try gratitude journaling. I started writing three things I was grateful for every single day.

And let me tell you, most days I struggled to write anything at all, especially on days when everything in life goes wrong but I continued to push myself and I wrote even the smallest things, like good weather or the comfort of my bed.

Over time, these seemingly insignificant things started to add up and it served as a reminder, especially during those hard days that I was still blessed and that there was still hope.

It helped shift my perspective from focusing on the things that were going wrong to appreciating the things that were going right, no matter how small.

Somehow gratitude journaling became one of the ways for me to keep holding on to the light even in my darkest days. It wasn’t just about writing down positive things, it was more about actively searching for them in my everyday life.

Doing this helped me find the strength and hope that I needed to keep going and to keep trying despite all the challenges that I was facing.

If you want to give it a try, start by writing down just one thing you’re grateful for each day. Remember, it doesn’t have to be something big or extraordinary. The key is to stay consistent. Make it a daily habit and soon you’ll start noticing more and more things to be grateful for.

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